Articles & Essays

Here you will find coming-out stories by GF/GD, info articles and essays. It’s exciting how the perspectives and experiences among girlfags and guydykes are similar and different at the same time. If you want to contribute (or withdraw) your article please write an e-mail to: gfgd-berlin@freenet.de.

More literature and academic research from other websites and blogs can be found here: Links & Literature.

Basics

Here are some criteria that can help you to find out if you yourself are a girlfag or a guydyke.If you have checked multiple statements, you may be a girlfag or a guydyke.However, don't forget that there are also big differences among girlfags and guydykes. If you are still unsure, ...
That is one of the frequently asked questions that is not that easy to answer. The concept of GF/GD is close to transgender (which is an umbrella term including a wide variety of gender variant people). Some girlfags and guydykes identify as genderqueer or transgender. Others don't. In my eyes ...
Of course there are! The oldest symbols have emerged in the Girlfag Livejournal community initiated by Clare T. Rampling and are used a lot since. Girlfag symbol of Livejournal Guydyke symbol of Livejournal Girlfag and guydyke symbol So far so good. However, there are also GF/GD who cannot (fully) agree ...
Knowing one's history as a queer minority is very valuable. Knowledge is useful to pass it on to the next generation of activists. And it is a good basis for a discussion, for example, when people accuse us of being just a trend or a new phenomenon: then we can ...
You can hear every once in a while that girlfags are not "allowed" to use the word fag. Because "fag" is a slur and only gay men are (should?) be allowed to reclaim/reappropriate it. Def. Reappropriation is the cultural process by which a group reclaims—re-appropriates—terms or artifacts that were previously ...
Guydykes are less visible than girlfags, often only mentioned and seldom included in GF/GD contexts. To counter that, here is a list of articles, links, and videos that focus on guydykes. Much of this can be found elsewhere on this homepage, but this list gives guydykes an overview. 😉 guydyke ...
Girlfags girlfag & genderqueer, by Max* Girlfags are (more or less) female identified people who feel like gay men. Most girlfags were assigned female at birth. They are attracted to gay/bi/queer men and gay-male sexuality but are not limited to this and can be attracted to more types of people ...

Essays

Originally published in Queerulant_in (Jahrgang 2, Ausgabe 3 (6) - Dez 2013/Jan 2014). Note: I will use the German word “schwul” for “gay male” in this article because English has no single word for the concept, and because "schwul" has a subtly different meaning from "gay male". A great many ...
My friend asked me to write an essay for a guide about coming out in Japan (we're I've lived for the past few years) and I was reluctant at first since I was worried about being misunderstood, as I have been so many times...But then I said FUCK IT. So ...
Originally published in BUST magazine, Summer 2003, p. 65 Sometime around 1985 I remember picking up a copy of Men in Love by Nancy Friday. It was full of a whole spectrum of stories of men’s sexual fantasies, and it was both educational and hot. In the chapter "Women with ...

Coming-Out Stories

I am a biological male. My gender identity is male. I do not consider myself gay, straight or bi. I do not consider myself transgender, being very comfortable with my biological assignment, although sometimes it feels a little at odds ...
Well, and not just "cute gay boys"--the RL bi/gay men I'm attracted to are older (I'm 48) and not usually what society considers cute or hunky or what-have-you. I'm attracted to them because they're (1) "my type" [literate, smart, kind, ...